Spinal Surgery @ the Royal National Orthopedic Hospital, London

Months of fear and anxiety over my precious son’s spinal surgery are finally over. Today is exactly 3weeks after the successful T5 vertebrectomy and spinal reconstruction from T3 – T8 surgery. This highly skillful surgery was performed by the talented and brilliant Dr Stewart Tucker a spinal consultant at the Royal National Orthopedic Hospital (RNOH) without any incidence.
This month is a year since the diagnosis of osteosarcoma, as a mom hiding away my tears and fears were really very taxing. Finally I feel so relived that all is over and Richard can go on and live his life to the fullest. He is such an amazing young man after going through chemotherapy, serious infections (3 X), operating theaters (9X) Blood Transfusion (10X) Hundreds and hundreds of pokes and two major surgeries (his beads of courage speaks for itself), he has not at one time ask “WHY ME”. He took it all as his challenges in his life and conquers all his hurdles with triumph. Truly “Richard the Lion Heart!”
One week after the spinal surgery he was discharged from RNOH and has started to plan for his university studies. I just know (mother’s instincts that he will be great man and he will touch and inspire millions of people as he already has. I thank my god, my creator for all the healing and the miracles for my son. My prayers `were answered at every stage of my son’s treatment and recovery process. God works in miraculous ways including directing the right doctors and surgeons.
There is one very special person that we are very fortunate to meet in our life’s’ journey. He is Mike Sullivan a brilliant pediatric oncologist (consultant) @ Christchurch Hospital. His professionalism and his willingness to listen and consult with other medical experts to get the best cure facilitated the highly successful treatment and recovery process. He is indeed a simple man with a heart of gold. He told us that he will search the whole planet for the right spinal surgeon. He not only did that, he went all out to get the necessary approvals and funding for Richard’s surgery. How many doctors in Malaysia will do that in fact not many in the world? There is no wonder that his patients under his care are so strong and positive.
To us he is not just a doctor but one of god’s chosen healers as well. It is just amazing how our life were directed at the right time to be in New Zealand.
Last year's Mothers day is like doomsday to me. This year is one of the best days I ever had. I am so blessed with three great sons and a wonderful husband. Happy Mother’s Day!

Leaving on a jet plane.... in London for six weeks.

Conquer your hidden fears of prospecting and create an unstoppable mindset!

I was reading an article about "The Two Core Fears and the Fear of Success" by Lisa Jimenez, M.Ed. I would normally share it to my friends usually over afternoon tea at Regent Hotel ,Kuala Lumpur. Since I am so far away , the best sharing is through blogging. Happy reading people!

Fear of commitment, fear of responsibility, fear of loss, and fear of confrontation are all symptoms of the two core fears. All of these surface fears fall into two categories which are the core fears: Fear of Failure and Fear of Success.

If you experience fear of commitment, responsibility, growing up, or change, your core fear is the fear of success. If most of your anxiety comes from fear of rejection, confrontation, or not measuring up, your core fear is the fear of failure.

Let´s talk today about the fear of success. The fear of succeeding and then having to maintain that success can be daunting. The fear of success is the most powerful fear over most people because it relates directly to the three inborn fears we talked about the other day. Fear of falling, fear of loud noises, and fear of abandonment.

The fear of falling represents the belief that once you've achieved success; there's no place to go but down.

The fear of loud noises correlates to sudden change. Perhaps you've been working toward something for months, and then, overnight it seems, something comes through and suddenly you are successful.

The fear of abandonment is very real to a person on the journey of success. You might lose friends when you become successful. They might be jealous of your success, view you as arrogant, or feel that you just don't fit in to the "old group" anymore. We have sayings like, "It's lonely at the top," and your inborn fear of abandonment is challenged.

These three fears are inborn and naturally reoccur from time to time. You can counter them by replacing them with truth. Discover your truth about what success means to you and live your life based on these truths. Then you will silence these inborn fears and conquer the dream busters.

Face Your Fear of Success


"Helping people breakthrough hidden fears and self-limiting beliefs to live a more outrageous, faith-filled life."


Lisa Jimenez has helped thousands of top salespeople shatter their self-limiting beliefs and finally get the breakthrough success they want. When it comes to personal productivity and creating unstoppable momentum - there is no one better for you than Lisa. Lisa penetrates the hearts of your audience when she reveals her own experience of how she broke through self-limiting beliefs and turned them into the driving force behind her success. Then used these new beliefs to sign a six-figure consulting contract just 9 months later.

no words

When I was a little girl, my mom used to tell me - To think before I speak “As words that are spoken ,you can’t take it back”. You can simply eat anything but WORDS you can’t simply say it without knowing the true meaning. I was guided by this basic principles of my mom!

My principal at my primary school ( Marian Convent Ipoh , Malaysia)always ends the school assembly with :-remember children “If you can’t say anything nice, say nothing at all”.

And during my days at the Bank my favorite quote was “If you don’t open your mouth, I don’t say you are dumb!” – Direct translation from my great grand ma’s favorite quotation.

My Chinese Grandma from China used to remind me that : “The most poisonous thing in this world is the mouth; beware of the words that you use. Remember do not curse others as a 100 curses will come back to you”.

When I relate them to my three sons, now and then, they always had a good laugh at my directly translated Chinese quotations, that were hand me downs from my great grand ma days!

Nowadays, I use western quotes, some of them are:-

"Words do two major things: They provide food for the mind and create light for understanding and awareness." Jim Rohn

"It is with words as with sunbeams, the more they are condensed, the deeper they burn." Robert Southey

"Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs." Pearl Strachan

"We have too many high sounding words, and too few actions that correspond with them." Abigail Adams

"Refuse to criticize, condemn, or complain. Instead, think and talk only about the things you really want." Brian Tracy

"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." Mother Teresa

"Never talk defeat. Use words like hope, belief, faith, victory." Norman Vincent Peale

Remember the song "Words" by Bee Gees,
You think that I don’t even mean a single word I Say. Its only words and words are all I have, to take your heart away. Bee Gees

How meaningful!
No words - just Make it a Great Day,Week, Month, Year !

Rain or Shine, The Show Must Go On !

That's the spirit of the New Zealanders, most of them braved the rain and the cold to attend the " Lantern Festival" held at Victoria Park , Christchurch recently( 2 Sundays ago). This has been an annual affair for four years to celebrate the Chinese New Year. Some artistes are flown in from China, the local performers are from the Asian communities in Christchurch. Malaysian students from University of Canterbury gave a stunning Malay dance performance complete Malaysian costumes.
The Lantern on display at the Park came in various shapes, sizes and colour.The whole park was transformed into a magical land.
The Crowd with rain coats and umbrellas.
Later into the night , when the rain subsided the park was packed.

" Gold Fish Floating on The Avon River"

The Sheep and the Cow....Symbolic of New Zealand!
Blue and White Ming Dynasty Lantern Vases
Almost Like The Real Thing
The "Water Dragon" The Moon and The Stars

Child Cancer Foundation Street Appeal 2008

Today I volunteer my time to help the Child Cancer Foundation Street Appeal 2008. This is the first time in my life I stood outside a mall collecting to support children with cancer and their families. The first hour I had mixed feelings from anger to self pity but as the donations poured in by the passer-by, I became emotional. I teared at every dollar or coin put in the box by the generous people.I know we are not alone (which I often felt before)on this journey there`are thousands supporting us. People whom we may not know but has generously given to the foundation.
We had great support from the Child Cancer Foundation New Zealand when our child was diagnosed with cancer.When I came back home I went straight to the shower and cried my heart out ( I had held on to my tears the last 9 months) . I felt so calm and its so healing. I felt good being able to contribute as a volunteer to help others as others have help us. It is so therapeutic.I have decided to be a permanent volunteer for any event in the future.
I realised that my contribution to raise money helps the foundation to provide vital services to children such as financial assistance , including assistance`with travel, food and accommodation, children's education (often disrupted with treatment), fund research programs on childhood cancer.

Do visit the foundation website for more information: http://www.childcancer.org.nz

Funds raised in 2007 were used to introduce the Beads of Courage Programme in paediatric oncology wards throughout the country. Each small and colourful bead signified a different treatment of every child’s courageous battle with cancer, whether that be braving another injection, surgery,x-rays, scans, hair-loss, isolation room, clinic visits, radiotherapy sessions or completing a chemotherapy session.

My son's "Beads of Courage"

The new face of appeal for 2008 is Beautiful PETRA HANCOCK
Five and half year old Petra Hancock exudes personality. She's cheeky, she’s affectionate, she’s got boundless energy and she just loves to play.



HELP US HELP BRAVE KIDS LIKE PETRA AT http://www.petrasbeads.co.nz

The 2008 Child Cancer Foundation Annual Appeal is now underway and we are seeking your generous support to help us raise funds to support kids with cancer, their families and the health professionals who care for them. Please visit www.petrasbeads.co.nz and add another special bead to Petra’s necklace by making an online donation.

The Dance Of Passion

I just finished watching the TVB Series Dance of passion (recommended by my aunt in Melbourne)The Dance of Passion is a tragic tale about the lives of two clan families in the mountains - the Yim’s and Sung’s. In the town in which they live, everything is based on law and tradition. There is no freethinking or reform. It is all about preserving the will and customs of the ancestors. They uphold men’s superiority, women’s inferiority and sole purpose to produce children, and condemn all who defy tradition. Their town was formed on a code of chastity, so faithfulness is an utmost for them. Women must protect their purity. Any woman is who impure (whether she was raped, in the hands of other men, or had an affair) is condemned and killed to preserve the purity of the town.
Living in such a town is Ka Chun Fan (Charmaine Sheh), a woman with the poorest of fates.

I just love the subsong "Lover On Golden Sand" by Charmaine Sheh